On being like you want to be
Today I’d like to look at quite a pivotal concept namely being flexible and creative enough to be the way you want to be and keep that in mind when you feel like resorting to less than optimal behvaiour.
Somteimes when our buttons are pushed so to speak we may feel inclined to resort to options like ‘feeling frustrated’ ’saying something which really isn’t very reflective of who we are’ ‘feeling annoyed’ ‘feeling stressed’ there is quite a wide and diverse repertoire of choices and they may not bring out your best qualities.
Today as I was working with someone who was showing what I would define as ‘authorative’ behaviour I found myself for a moment ‘playing her game’ as a good friend of mine would put it. I was momentarily drawn towards reacting to her “frustrated state of mind” untill I saw somebody smile at me. I instantly thought “why should I waste my energy on this nonsensical behaviour’. Why should I ‘play her game’. It’s helpfull to keep in mind that when people behave in a frustrated fashion they may be feeling stressed about something and it shows in their state of mind. Through their behaviour it becomes transparent that they are not feeling great.
This may sound crystalclear however when we find ourselves in a context where we feel triggered we may forget that the person(s) we are dealing with are often just acting out their own stuff which has nothing to do with usat that point it becomes easy to let it go.
Staying relaxed, if that is one of the things you would like to be, is more important than getting annoyed. So by staying relaxed we are reflecting our own values and not someone else’s.
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