Changing through ‘not working’

11.05.09 / NLP / Author: kate

My love and I were talking about the differences between Dru and Vinyasa Yoga, which we love. One of the things is that Vinyasa seems to be a bit stronger in the practie, really what we call ‘working in a pose’ which is to say that you actively and yet subtly try to deepen your pose by actively getting involved in the pose. Refecting a different part of the spectrum there are also Vinyasa poses and Dru poses which allow you to explicitly ‘not work’ in a pose, to acively ‘not work’ and by ‘not working’ to allow your relaxation to deepen and to flow into your body just like tea diffuses in hot water. This ‘not working’ can leave you feeling nourished and revitalised.

In our daily lives we may use both approaches, and we may tend to empasize the first, working hard to achieve results. This may work wonderfully, and, you may also want to create some room for yourself to try out the softening approach to see if you can reach your results in a more relaxed way.

Say you’d like to change a certain apect of your behaviour, you could allow yourself to decide on your new behaviour and then to relax into it, calmly, explicitly ‘not working’. No SMART goals, no targets, simply diffusing yourself in this new behaviour gently untill it becomes a part of you. Allowing yourself to move towards your goal by being gentle, and learning through opening up to new things in a gentle way, always learning that there are new maybe more positive ways to see things, experience things which may feel better. Being kind towards yourself, knowing that you are learning and giving yourself some practice time. Remembering that it is only important that you feel you can choose the way you want to be, and you can achieve that through practice.